Help me! Please, help! I’m being sucked into the muck and mire of hormonal quicksand!
It comes out of nowhere. I’ll be going through my day and phlumpppplplplpl. I’m stuck. Just like that. What was a beautiful sunshiney day has become a, life and death battle, to keep my head above the earth. The hormonal quicksand threatening to devour me whole!
You married men, and fathers of daughters, know whereof I speak.
In fact, any man who ever had a glint of interest in his eye, for the wonder of creation that is woman, knows whereof I speak!
So if you have any strategy that can help me, to avoid the traps that litter our pathways in life, please help me! Save me, for I am farsighted and can’t see the traps directly in front of me.
By now I should be much better at this. It’s not like I haven’t been married and living with these two for over a decade, but I’m a man, for crying out loud! Thick is as thick does!
My brain doesn’t work their way. My mouth doesn’t know when to hold itself, and my proclivity to want to fix the situation and be practical can’t be tamed.
I fly directly through the Jersey Barriers my wife and daughter claim they have set up, to steer me clear of these pits I keep finding myself in. I’m blind to the nuance of women!
So any help out there, would be appreciated!
That’s exactly how I feel sometimes(often). I love my girls with everything I have, but I sure don’t get it right, showing them, near enough. Especially the way they need!
I’m a bull in a China shop, breaking the precious China as I amble through, undeterred by the beauty that can be damaged around me.
So truly, what can be done! Does a bull walk more carefully through the shop because he busted China before? Is he doomed, a hopeless creature, stupidly continuing to trample the precious inventory and destroying it?
The answer. Well being a testosterone headed man and I have read and re-read this specific verse in just about every Bible translation (even Bulgarian) out there. I’ve decided to go with this version, one that I can understand from The International Children’s Bible:
“7 In the same way, you husbands should live with your wives in an understanding way. You should show respect to them. They are weaker than you. But God gives them the same blessing that he gives you—the grace that gives true life. Do this so that nothing will stop your prayers.” ~1 Peter 3:7, International Children’s Bible (ICB
My bullish behavior is anything but understanding, respectful or graceful. When I act like that, I do not help my wife experience the true life God desires her to have. I actually counteract that in her life, and force the death of my sin on her.
Each time I’m bullish, I kill a little bit of the joy, her life in Christ has been filled with. I know I’ve killed a bit of my wife’s joy in our marriage. Because the man I’ve been, at times, has disappointed her. That shames me as a man. She is mine to care for, and I have left my job undone all too often.
My reaction to my daughter isn’t much better. I wish I could say otherwise, but it isn’t.
I’m abrupt, and condescending and sarcastic. I expect immediate response (my wife says it’s the cop in me). I don’t listen. I’m impatient. Yet, this is my sweet little girl that I supposedly love? So where is it? Where is the love in all that bullish behavior?
I’m sure she doesn’t see love when I’m like that. I’m killing my own example for her, the Godly one that I want her to learn from. The example of what a husband should be to her. The safe haven she can trust, and run to in times of trouble! I take that away from her when I’m thrashing about in the quicksand of dealing with my lovely ladies!
SO what am I, what are you to do, if you find yourself in the same quicksand as I.
How To Escape Hormonal Quicksand!
When you feel them(your feet) start to come free, roll to your side away from the quicksand and free of its grip. You’ll get dirty, but it’s the quickest and safest way to free yourself.
Take your time. If you’re stuck in quicksand, frantic movements will only hurt your cause. Whatever you do, do it slowly. Slow movements will prevent you from agitating the quicksand; vibrations caused by rapid movements can turn otherwise relatively firm ground into more quicksand.
- More importantly, quicksand can react unpredictably to your movements. If you move slowly, you can more easily stop an adverse reaction and, by doing so, avoid getting yourself stuck deeper. You’re going to need to be patient. Depending on how much quicksand is around you, it could take several minutes or even hours to slowly, methodically get yourself out.
I like the statement that if you free yourself from the quicksand you will be on ‘relatively firm ground’. Don’t forget that. The firm ground is not a guarantee, like ever!
In case you desire to avoid hormonal quicksand all together. Which I highly doubt is possible. wikiHow offered these tips to Avoiding Quicksand. While avoidance is unlikely, being prepared and knowing what to expect,may make us better at dealing with it when we step in it. A very uncomfortable feeling indeed!
25 Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church. Christ died for the church26 to make it belong to God. Christ used the word to make the church clean by washing it with water. 27 Christ died so that he could give the church to himself like a bride in all her beauty. He died so that the church could be pure and without fault, with no evil or sin or any other wrong thing in it. 28 And husbands should love their wives in the same way. They should love their wives as they love their own bodies. The man who loves his wife loves himself. ~Ephesians 5:25-28 International Children’s Bible
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I loved the metaphor you used here. I have noticed too often as I was brought up that many people (men and women) just do not respect their significant other in the way they should. As a divorced woman with an estranged family and few close friends, I do know the feeling that comes with having those that say they love you do nothing but tear you down. Even when I tried to express my feelings, they were pushed aside, which only made the problem worse. It honestly makes a person feel as if they are just there for convenience, because many trust actions, not words. I tell people this, if you wouldn’t treat a stranger that way, why are you treating those that you are supposed to hold closest that way?
Also, I apologize as I could find no other place for this, but I wanted to let you know that I nominated you for The Liebster Award!